AARP and The Red Cross Are Talking About Wills—Here’s the Part They Left Out

August is National Make-A-Will month and you may have received an advertisement in your inbox or mailbox from AARP or the American Red Cross reminding you to get your Will taken care of this month. Both AARP and The Red Cross promoted their partnerships with FreeWill.com, a website that claims to help you create a legally valid Will in just 20 minutes.

A Will is usually the first thing that comes to mind when you think of getting your affairs in order, so the advice presented by AARP, The Red Cross, and National Make-A-Will month itself sounds really good. But in reality, the message of AARP and The Red Cross for Make-A-Will month could leave your family with a stressful mess when you die or if you become incapacitated first.

To understand why, it’s important to know what a Will does and where its limits lie.

A Will Does Not Cover All of Your Assets

Advertisements and public campaigns about making a Will can make it seem like a Will can take care of all of your needs and all of your assets after you’ve died. In reality, a Will only covers certain items of your property, including any property owned solely in your name and any property that doesn’t have a beneficiary designation.

That means a Will does not control property co-owned by you with others listed as joint tenants or owned as marital property with a spouse, meaning you can only give away your share of any property you own with others, not the entire property.

Assets such as retirement accounts and life insurance policies that have beneficiary designations are not controlled by your Will at all but will instead be paid out directly to the person listed as your beneficiary on each account. Because of this, it’s especially important to make sure your account beneficiaries are up to date. And, that you have backup designations in case your chosen beneficiary isn’t living at the time of your death.

Even if your Will states that you want your wishes to apply to all of your assets, the wishes in your Will are always trumped by beneficiary designations and co-ownership laws.

A Will Does Nothing For You If You Become Incapacitated

Since your Will doesn’t have any authority until after you’ve died, you can’t use it to give someone you trust the power to make decisions for you if you’re incapacitated due to illness or injury. An incapacity can occur as a result of a car accident, an injury sustained while playing with your softball league, or due to an illness, and may be temporary or permanent.

Tasks like paying your bills, managing your money, and maintaining your home may all require help if you become incapacitated. Likewise, you’ll need someone who can make medical decisions for you if you’re unconscious or unable to communicate your medical choices effectively, such as if you’re in an induced coma in the hospital or have memory problems due to an injury or degenerative condition.

Unfortunately, the people named in your Will have no authority to make decisions for you or act on your behalf while you’re alive unless you’ve given them that power through a separate Power of Attorney. Without it, your loved ones may need to go through a court guardianship process to gain the authority to take care of you and your home.

A Will Must Be Filed in Court to Be Used

One of the biggest estate planning myths I hear from clients is the belief that by having a Will, their loved ones won’t need to go to court after they die.

Sadly, this is the opposite of the truth.

A Will only has the authority to control your assets and represent your decisions when it is filed under a probate case in court after your death. If you named someone in your Will to manage your estate or watch over your children, that person will have no authority to do so while you’re alive.

Your chosen representatives can only begin the process of managing your assets and following the wishes you’ve left in your Will only after a judge or court commissioner has formally given them the power. While court oversight can be helpful if there is any confusion or disagreement about your estate, the probate process can be long and expensive. Often, the process can take 12 – 18 months or sometimes even longer.

Due to the length and complexity of the process, going through probate can easily cost your family tens of thousands of dollars. Some states even require that probate cost a certain percentage of your estate’s value.

In addition, because probate is a public court proceeding, your Will becomes part of the public record upon your death, allowing everyone to see the contents of your estate, who your beneficiaries are, and what they’ll receive. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for scammers to use this information to try to take advantage of young or vulnerable beneficiaries who just inherited money from you.

A Will is Not an Estate Plan

Organizations often promote a message of the importance of creating a Will because a Will is a tool that most people have heard of and are familiar with, which makes it an easy launching point to talk about the importance of planning for your assets and your loved ones. But the thing is, a Will isn’t the one-and-done solution that most people are led to believe.

The terms “Will” and “estate plan” are often used interchangeably to mean a tool for dispersing your assets and protecting your wishes, but these two terms are not the same. In reality, a Will is just one piece of your overall estate plan, not the entire plan itself. An estate plan isn’t just one or two documents – it’s a range of strategic decisions about the allocation and title of your assets, and it’s a set of tools and counseling-oriented planning that make sure everything and everyone you love is taken care of both while you’re alive and after you’re gone.

Your complete estate plan may include a Will, a Trust, Powers of Attorney, and other tools that are tailored to your specific situation, local laws, and your vision for the future.

And even more important than both a Will and a Trust, is an inventory of your assets so your family knows what you have, where it is, and how to find it when you become incapacitated or die. Without an inventory of your assets, your family will be lost when something happens to you. A comprehensive inventory updated throughout your lifetime is a critical, and often overlooked, piece of an estate plan that is just contains a Will.

Trusted Guidance and Counseling

An online program may be able to give you a legally valid Will or other legal documents, but just because something is legally valid doesn’t mean it will be effective. And any document created through a 20-minute online tool is almost guaranteed not to work for you and your loved ones when they need it.

If you’re ready to see how having an estate plan created for your family with heart-forward professional guidance is different than just creating a Will online, schedule your estate planning session today. During your planning session, we’ll review an inventory of everything you have and discuss everyone you love, and together we’ll look at what would happen to your possessions and loved ones when something does happen to you. Then, we will help you develop a plan that works exactly as you want it – to make sure your loved ones are taken care of when you can’t be there.

Most importantly, any document created using an online tool will lack the knowledge, guidance, and personal counseling of a trusted expert who knows your situation and cares about your plan’s effectiveness.

That’s why I don’t just create documents – we guide you and your family through every step of the process, now and at the time of your passing. We even help our clients pass on something more valuable than their money – their values, stories, and wisdom – through a Family Legacy Interview.

To get clarity on what you and the people you love truly need, click this link so you can take the first step toward your comprehensive estate planning session today.

As a parent, you may have questions about what you really need in place to protect your kids, your family, your assets, and yourself. From guardians and trusts to wills and health care documents, it can be hard to know where to start. Read on for answers to some of the most common estate planning questions we hear from parents.

Question 1: What is an estate plan?

When people hear the word estate, they often imagine mansions or large investments, but your estate is simply everything you own: your home, savings, personal belongings, and, most importantly, the people you want to protect.

Estate planning is about making thoughtful decisions ahead of time. It allows you to decide who would care for your children, who would make financial or medical decisions if you couldn’t, and how you want your assets managed and distributed.

Whether you’re just starting your career, growing your family, or planning for retirement, an estate plan gives you the opportunity to make those decisions yourself rather than leaving them to default state laws.

Question 2: Do I really need an estate plan if I’m young and healthy?

Even if you’re young and healthy, estate planning matters because life can change in an instant.

With a plan, you name guardians and decision-makers. Without one, many of those decisions may be left to the court or determined by state law. For example, if both parents are unable to care for their children and no guardian has been named, a court will appoint one.

A thoughtful plan can protect your family’s future, provide guidance, and help ensure your children’s inheritance is handled the way you intend.

Online forms and AI tools can be useful for general education, but they can’t provide legal advice or tailor a plan to your needs. An experienced estate planning attorney can help create a plan that’s customized, complies with state law, and is designed to hold up legally when your family needs it most.

Question 3: What documents are included in an estate plan?

A comprehensive estate plan includes several key documents that work together to protect your family.

A Will lets you name guardians for your minor children and direct how your assets are distributed.

A Revocable Living Trust can help avoid probate and provide more control over how assets are managed and distributed.

A Durable Financial Power of Attorney allows someone you trust to manage your financial affairs if you become incapacitated.

A Health Care Proxy allows you to appoint someone to make medical decisions on your behalf if you’re unable to do so.

A HIPAA Authorization gives the people you choose permission to access your medical information when needed.

The right combination of documents depends on your stage of life and your family’s unique needs.

Question 4: Do I need a will, a trust, or both?

This is one of the most common questions parents ask, and the answer depends on your goals.

A will allows you to name guardians for your minor children and direct how your assets are distributed.

A revocable living trust is often used alongside a will. It can help avoid probate, provide privacy, and give you more flexibility in how assets are managed and distributed.

For parents of young children, one of the biggest advantages of a trust is the control it provides. A trust lets you decide when and how your children receive their inheritance rather than having assets become available when they reach legal adulthood. Without that structure, significant assets like a home or investments may become available at a much younger age than most parents feel is wise. A trust also allows you to appoint someone you trust to manage those assets until your children reach the ages or milestones you choose.

For many families, the right solution includes both a will and a trust. It depends on factors like home ownership, the age of your children, and whether you want to avoid probate or set conditions for an inheritance.

Often, the better question isn’t “Do I need a will or a trust?” but “What do I want my plan to accomplish for my family?”

Question 5: How much does estate planning cost?

The cost of estate planning can vary widely depending on your family’s unique situation, goals, and the complexity of the plan.

The most important question isn’t simply what it costs, but what level of planning will best protect your family.

Once an attorney understands your goals and your situation, they can recommend the right approach and explain the fees up front.

Question 6: What happens if I don’t have an estate plan?

There is always a plan. It just may not be the one you would have chosen.

If you don’t create an estate plan, Massachusetts law provides a default plan for many important decisions. Those laws are meant to provide a framework, but they can’t account for your family’s unique needs or your preferences.

Without a plan, a court may need to appoint guardians for your minor children. Assets will be distributed according to state law, and your loved ones may experience unnecessary delays and additional stress.

Creating a plan allows you, not the state, to make those important decisions and provides clear guidance when your family needs it most.

Question 7: How do I choose a guardian for my children?

Choosing a guardian is one of the most important decisions parents make, and it can also be one of the toughest.

Many families struggle to find the one “perfect” person. At our firm, we help parents think through the decision and identify the best fit for their family. We’ll discuss questions you may not have considered, explore different scenarios, and help you make a decision that reflects your values and gives you confidence in your plan.

Thoughtful estate planning also allows you to clearly document your wishes. In some situations, parents have strong feelings about people they do not want serving as guardians. Clearly expressing those preferences in your legal plan can provide important guidance and help reduce uncertainty if difficult decisions ever need to be made.

Remember, naming a guardian isn’t permanent. As your children grow and circumstances change, your plan can be updated to reflect your family’s evolving needs.

Question 8: What happens if I don’t name a guardian?

If both parents are unable to care for their children and no guardian has been named, a court will appoint someone.

The court’s responsibility is to act in the child’s best interests, but without your guidance, the court could appoint someone you would not have chosen.

By naming a guardian, you provide the court with important guidance about who you believe is best suited to raise your children.

Question 9: When should I update my estate plan?

Estate planning isn’t something you do once and forget. Your plan should grow and change as your life does.

It’s a good idea to review your estate plan after major life events, including:

Getting married or divorced
The birth or adoption of a child
When your children become legal adults
Buying or selling a home
Receiving a significant inheritance
Starting or selling a business
A significant change in your financial situation
The death or incapacity of someone named in your plan, such as a guardian, trustee, executor, or agent under your power of attorney
Moving to another state
If your child is diagnosed with special needs, or if their diagnosis, abilities, level of independence, or long-term care needs change over time
Every three to five years, even if nothing major has changed

At our firm, estate planning is an ongoing relationship, not a one-time transaction. As your family grows and life changes, we’ll help you review and update your plan so it continues to reflect your wishes and protect the people you love.

Question 10: Can I create my estate plan using AI or online forms?

AI tools and online forms can be helpful for learning basic concepts or organizing your thoughts, but they can’t give legal advice or evaluate your family’s unique situation.

An estate plan is more than a set of forms. It’s a coordinated legal strategy designed around your specific goals and family dynamics.

If key issues aren’t addressed, certain decisions may default to state law, which can lead to unintended results.

Working with a qualified estate planning attorney who works with young families every day helps ensure your plan is tailored to your family’s needs and wishes. Rather than a one-time transaction, you’ll have a trusted advisor who can help keep your plan current as life changes.

Question 11: How do I get started?

Getting started is often easier than people expect.

The first step is scheduling a complimentary 15-minute call with our Client Services Coordinator.

You don’t need to have all the answers before you reach out. You don’t need to know exactly who you’d choose as guardians or what documents you need. That’s what we’re here to help with.

During that call, we’ll learn a little about your family, answer your initial questions, explain what to expect, and help determine the next best step.

If it makes sense to move forward, we’ll schedule a planning session with one of our attorneys, where we’ll talk through your goals, explain your options in plain language, and help you feel confident about the path forward.

Our goal is to make estate planning approachable, understandable, and personal so you can move forward with confidence, knowing your family is protected.

Question 12: What can I expect during my planning session?

Your planning session is a conversation, not a presentation.

We’ll take time to get to know you, listen to your goals, and answer your questions. We’ll walk you through decisions you may not have thought about, such as guardianship and how and when assets should pass to your children.

By the end of your planning session, you’ll have a clear understanding of your options, what we recommend, why we recommend it, and what the next steps look like.

Our goal isn’t simply to create legal documents. It’s to help you build a thoughtful estate plan that reflects your wishes and protects the people you love.

Question 13: How long will my estate plan take to complete?

Creating your estate plan begins with your planning session, and we ask clients to reserve about 90 minutes so we can truly understand your family and your goals.

During the first part of your planning session, we’ll get to know you, answer your questions, explore your wishes, and discuss what’s most important to you. We’ll explain your options in plain language and recommend the level of planning that’s right for your family’s unique situation.

If you decide to move forward with our firm, the second part of the planning session is spent beginning to design your estate plan. Together, we’ll map out the important decisions and gather the information needed to prepare documents that reflect your wishes and protect your family.

It takes about four weeks from your planning session to signing your estate planning documents. A lot will depend on how quickly you’re able to finalize your decisions. It’s important to remember that nothing is legal until it is signed, so we move you to your signing meeting as quickly as possible.

We’ll be with you every step of the way, keeping you informed so you’ll always know what to expect.

Ready to protect your family? Schedule a complimentary 15-minute call with our Client Services Coordinator to get started. Let’s chat.

The Parents Estate Planning Law Firm, PC

At The Parents Estate Planning Law Firm, we answer your questions at your convenience; we stay in frequent communication; and we meet to discuss changes in life circumstances and in the law to ensure that your assets are protected.